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“Me Too”

“Me Too”

 

Harvey Weinstein has been much of the talks lately.  Many are coming out whom have been directly affected by Harvey, and many more are coming out whom have been affected by others.  You and I have all seen the way they have been coming out.  #MeToo.

 

​http://abcnews.go.com/Entertainment/wireStory/alyssa-milano-elevates-harvey-weinstein-conversation-50525732

 

The Me Too movement as you know came about as a response and to bring awareness to the situation at hand since the Harvey Weinstein controversy.  Since the first post about this situation “more than 53,000 people had left comments and thousands of women had declared “Me Too,” sharing their stories of rape, sexual assault and harassment across social media, including some for the first time.”

 

 

 

 

I too included a “me too” post for the very first time. I have never shared my story, but I have undergone sexual assault and harassment.   It took a lot for me to even write those two words because it meant admitting to myself that I am a victim of assault.  I never reported my assailants, nor would I at this point. One of them is deceased, the other was really young when he did so.  I was young myself and did not know how to talk about or process what I endured.  My post also shows my family a truth about my past which I never wanted to discuss, never have discussed with them, nor do I have any intentions to further discuss with them nor my spouse. 

 

Some may have seen it, some may have not.  Those two little words I wrote in solidarity for being victimized, but any further elaboration up to that point was not going to be given.  Many though chose not to admit their assaults or harassment in this movement.  Many are still unable to handle such memories or just want to bury their past deep down to the bottoms of the oceans. I do not blame them.


I commend the women whom have been able to share their stories in public. They are stronger than I am for sharing their stories along side their Me Too.  

 

As I write this I can vividly see the faces of the two whom have harassed/assaulted me in my past.  I can vividly see where I was, what I wore, What was said and what happened after the fact.  I cringe at the memory. I feel repulsed by myself.

I couldn’t add more than those two words.

My family follow me on social media.

I didn’t want to disclose more than I did.

Saying me too, I said more than I ever did since my first encounter.

As mentioned earlier one of the assailants I was told passed away.  Died too young.  Died in a hit and run accident in Florida.  It was horrendous to hear.  I never wished either of the two any wrong.  I forgave them both. Though I am scarred by the memories…I forgive them each time I think of it.  The one who passed away shouldn’t have died the way he did.  He was on his way to get milk for his infant.  I cried at the news.  Like I said I did forgive him. In person at that.  (though I did leave him with a black eye and a few scratches to the face at our encounter).

 

Sometimes we are victimized not by strangers but people we know and associate with.  Sometimes its a relatives.  I thank God in my case neither are relatives.  They were people I have known though.  People I didn’t think would do such a thing.

 

What I ask is that Mothers of boys, lets teach our sons to respect women. Lets raise our boys not to harass or assault anyone.  Teach our children boundaries.  Teach our children respect overall.  Teach our children “personal space”.  Teach our children how would you feel if you were in those shoes?  Teach our children what If it were me your mom or sibling that this had happened to.  We need to make things personal in order to assess our feelings accordingly.  We need to hold ourselves accountable for our own actions.

 

Mothers of daughters, teach your daughters to speak up.  Teach your daughters to defend themselves.  I may not have been able to speak up or do something the first time.  The second time I did fight back.  I did not turn the other check like the bible says, and I have asked for forgiveness in that.  I did defend myself.  I did not report to any authorities of anything nor did I file complain.  I probably should have.

 

Remember to please not judge those victimized.  No one ever asks to be raped, harassed or assaulted.  It’s not something that one says Hi, I’m here, Pick me, Choose me, attack me?


 We need to respect the privacy of those whom admit they were victims; but do not want to disclose anything further than two words.

 

It is hard.

 

Here are affiliated articles on the #metoo movement.:

 

Pslams 9:9

The Lord is a stronghold for the oppressed, a stronghold in times of trouble.

 

As with all that I do, let us end in a prayer.

Father God I thank you for another day to speak about a topic which is not spoken about often enough.  Lord you are my stronghold, in the good times and in my times of trouble.  Lord you are the stronghold to the many women whom have been victimized during the years.  I once again come before you and seek forgiveness for my transgressions on the issues I mentioned above and I forgive those whom have caused harm to my person.  God you know the situation that occurred, you know how it has affected me and why I choose not to disclose more than I did.  Lord I still want to forgive my transgressors and once again ask for forgiveness for my transgressions.  Lord I ask you provide strength and guidance to the many victims whom have yet found an outlet or confide in someone to discuss their circumstances and experience.  May they find refuge in you so that they too can forgive and move forward.  I know it is hard my Lord, but with you all things are possible.  Amen.

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additional means to help:

 

I want to apologize first to my lord and savior for not writing and blogging about his word, love and mercy.

Second I want to apologize to the readers whom are lifted up when you read the words that the lord inspired me to write.

Since hurricane Harvey I have been campaigning on stop for relief efforts for all in need. Whether by providing information as to where to donate aid, time, monetary donations or goods. I have family whom recently moved to Texas, my heart was heavy, luckily my family do not live within the regions which were affected. Despite that blessing my call towards servitude never falters. As Christian’s we are called to service. My calling is evermore present right now… the phone is ringing and Lord knows I’m answering any which way that I can.

Then hurricane Irma hit and destroyed Many islands which many of my relatives resides in as well as Florida where I have many relatives as well. Yet again my campaign continued to help any which way I could. Advertising relief efforts, advertising information…. any which way I am able to help I can.  Irma destroyed my father in laws properties in St. Martin.  Irma destroyed my uncles properties in St Thomas and St. Croix.  Irma destroyed many parts of Puerto Rico.

Now Maria…..oh María…. you finished off what Irma started and now, because of you I haven’t had a good nights rest. I can’t complain I have it better off compared to my island folks, compared to my paisanos. My heart is heavy. Still haven’t heard from many relatives. Many are without power, without food, without water, without their shelters.

As I write this I fight back tears which I thought I no longer thought I had any left. I have cried so much since Harvey, I cried ever more since Irma and Maria.  Maria has forced everyone to get down on their knees and seek God.  I have been working non stop and will continue working within the next few weeks for relief efforts for the carribean.  I heard from half of my family in Puerto Rico….Half.  a quarter of them are doing ok, surviving.  the other quarter are struggling….my heart is torn….theres not much I can do for them, I feel so helpless…so I find strength in God and my calling of servitutde to help.

 

As I write this post, the song that came up was Israel & the New Breed.  Oh GOD I cannot control the waterworks. But thank you…thank you.  This is what sticks out…

It’s not over, It’s not finished.
It’s not ending,
It’s only the beginning when God is in it.
All things are new.
All things are new.

I know it’s darkest just before dawn.
This might just be the hardest
Season you experience.
I know it hurts; it won’t be too long.
You’re closer than you think you are;
You’re closer than you’ve been before.
Oh look to the sky, help is on the way

We believe it
We declare it
We decree it over you
It’s not over when God, when God,
When God is in it.
No limits no boundary
I see increase all around here, yeah

God I needed those words…My family needs help. I know you shall provide.

The islands need help, I have faith, I trust in you with all my might that you will provide for them all.

 

God all is in your hands.

Many were forced down on their knees.  I trust in you.!

There is an urgency to give…please give.

If you are trying to contact family members in Puerto Rico, the American Red Cross Safe and Well website allows individuals and organizations to register and post messages to indicate that they are safe, or to search for loved ones. The site is open to the public and available in English and Spanish. You can also contact the Washington, DC, offices of the Puerto Rico Federal Affairs Administration, at 202-800-3133 or 202-800-3134, or email maria1@prfaa.pr.gov or maria2@prfaa.pr.gov. If your loved one needs emergency assistance, you can alert the U.S. State Department by calling 800-407-4747 (in the U.S. and Canada) or 202-501-4444 (from overseas).

https://www.youcaring.com/mexicoandpuertorico-959275

https://safeandwell.communityos.org/cms/index.php

https://www.ny.gov/programs/empire-state-relief-and-recovery-effort-puerto-rico

https://www.directrelief.org/

https://catholiccharitiesusa.org/

http://www.salvationarmy.org/

https://hispanicfederation.org/unidos

http://unidosporpuertorico.com/en/VkMoZ/

https://www.habitat.org/

http://www.savethechildren.org/site/c.8rKLIXMGIpI4E/b.6115947/k.B143/Official_USA_Site.htm

Drop Off Supplies VIA NYS

Across the state, New Yorkers are encouraged to drop off goods for donation at the below listed drop-off locations. We are only accepting the following items for donation: batteries, flashlights, portable lanterns, diapers, baby wipes, cases of water and feminine hygiene products. All items must be unopened and in their original packaging.

The drop-off sites will accept donations every day between 9 a.m. and 6 p.m.

Capital Region

Empire State Plaza Main Concourse
Albany

Central New York

Senator John J. Hughes State Office Building
333 E. Washington Street
Syracuse

Finger Lakes

State Police Zone Station
1155 Scottsville Road, Suite 400
Rochester

Long Island

Perry B. Duryea State Office Building
250 Veterans Memorial Highway
Hauppauge

Mid-Hudson Valley

Yonkers Armory
2 Quincy Place
Yonkers

Mohawk Valley

Utica State Office Building
207 Genesee Street
Utica

New York City

Jacob K. Javits Center
655 W. 34th Street
New York

Shirley A. Chisholm State Office Building
55 Hanson Place
Brooklyn

Jamaica Street Armory
93-05 168th Street
Queens

Roberto Clemente State Park
301 West Tremont Ave
Bronx

Department of Motor Vehicles (to begin accepting donations on 9/26)
696 E Fordham Road
Bronx

Southern Tier

Binghamton Armory
85 West End Avenue
Binghamton

Western New York

Connecticut Street Armory
184 Connecticut Street
Buffalo

Please help any way you can, not just to Puerto Rico but the other areas affected.

 

May god bless you all.

 

Father God I thank you for the valuable lessons you have taught us within the past few weeks.  I apologize for not spreading your word in writing, but I have been sharing your spirit of love and compassion.  Father You are merciful, you are loving, you are the alpha and the omega.  God I humbly ask for aid not just for my mother land, but the others whom were affected by all this natural disaster.  As we sit here in the flesh in worry, concerned, with a want and desire to help, GOD know that I trust and have faith in you.  I pray that for many this was a time where their faith in you was restored.  Many were brought down to their knees and Lord I know you have your reasons for which we will not know.  I ask for help for all these people in need. I ask that you who can provide; provide them with the ailments they need to sustain until all these islands are fully restored.  In Jesus name we pray. Amen.

Topographic map

Capture

 

Why am I posting 3 different maps?
Answer:
Look at the topographic features of our island. High elevated mountainous terrains which are not easily accessible. Each of these mountainous terrains are inhabited by thousands of families per municipality. 78 municipalities total and many are within these hard to get areas. Now add a category 5 hurricanes which they did get, (two to be technical) you find your selves facing debris from all the trees, boulders from cliffs that may have collapsed and been destroyed, utility poles…. all which will need to be moved to reach these families and provide the aid they need.
My people here in the US have not heard from many of these families within these hard to reach areas. I pray, hope and have faith in God that these families will get the aid and relief they need. These are some difficult times on the island with limited resources. Despite these difficult times….. many have placed their faith in God to provide until aid is sent their way. God will provide!

 

If you have been inspired to help; please see my previous post  entitled ‘Help Needed’ on information on how you can help.

Several websites are listed where they will accept monetary donations towards materials, goods and relief efforts.

I may soon update the post with additional information as more agencies for donations come up.

 

Many blessings to you all.

#rebloging

Topographic map

Capture

 

Why am I posting 3 different maps?
Answer:
Look at the topographic features of our island. High elevated mountainous terrains which are not easily accessible. Each of these mountainous terrains are inhabited by thousands of families per municipality. 78 municipalities total and many are within these hard to get areas. Now add a category 5 hurricanes which they did get, (two to be technical) you find your selves facing debris from all the trees, boulders from cliffs that may have collapsed and been destroyed, utility poles…. all which will need to be moved to reach these families and provide the aid they need.
My people here in the US have not heard from many of these families within these hard to reach areas. I pray, hope and have faith in God that these families will get the aid and relief they need. These are some difficult times on the island with limited resources. Despite these difficult times….. many have placed their faith in God to provide until aid is sent their way. God will provide!

 

If you have been inspired to help; please see my previous post  entitled ‘Help Needed’ on information on how you can help.

Several websites are listed where they will accept monetary donations towards materials, goods and relief efforts.

I may soon update the post with additional information as more agencies for donations come up.

 

Many blessings to you all.

Un clamor al Gobernador de Puerto Rico

Gobernador con todo el alma te pido gracias por los esfuerzos que estás haciendo bajo estos circunstancias. Te pido por favor que mande alimentos y necesidades a los otros municipalidades que todavía no han recibido nada según los reportes.
Los gentes de los municipales de los montes, del sur, del oeste.
Officiales y leaderes de los municipales te lo reugo que no dejen que la gente sufran.
Controlen los que tan abusando con los precios.
Esfuerzen la ley para que no cojan ventajan.
Muchos necessitan attencion medico.
Muchos necessitan alimentos.
Muchos necessitan agua.
Muchos necessitan ayuda.
Te lo suplico con todo mi corazon y alma ayuda a la gente mas.

Gone and never forgotten

As a native New Yorker, today is always a hard day for me. As someone who lost friends this day….. today is always a hard one for me.

As a native New Yorker, I actually visited the towers often, prior to 9-11-01.

I would go straight to the observation deck.

The views were beyond amazing. The company with me were very special indeed. On the evening of 9/11 I cried oh so hard. We were going to go that morning to the observation deck, before classes were to begin and take in the amazing views during the day vs the night which we often did. My friend decided this as we were on the observation deck on the evening Sunday 9/9/01. He said let’s come back Tuesday. Early. That way we have enough time to head out to our classes in the afternoon.

It was Election Day that Tuesday. Primaries in New York. My first time voting as I had just turned 18. I got up early, went to vote. Excited to partake in my civil duties. Came back home, took a nap, while my siblings got ready for their school days. Knowing in a few hours, I will pack my school bag for college classes, meet up with my dear friend, continue celebrating his birthday with this special request, then head across on the ferry to go to St Johns so I can take my afternoon classes. It was going to be a perfect day.

Instead I was awoken by the news of this catastrophe. My siblings were already in school. I ran to the roof of the house and was freaking out. I saw the second plane crash. I ran down from the roof. Saw one of my neighbors, he drove me to pick up my brothers. My mom was on her way to a meeting with my sisters school that day in manhattan. I knew my sister and mom were together. My brothers though…. they needed me.

I knew many whom worked there.

None made it out.

The weeks afterwards were horrific to say the least as it was confirmed of the passing of several friends and family of friends:

16 years later.

My heart still palpitate with that pain I had.

I still cry.

I have yet go to the new freedom tower.

I have yet gone to see the new museum .

I have yet been able to pick up the courage.

One day I’ll go.

To those lost this day. May you Rest In Peace.

WTC you were a staple and icon to the NY skyline, always missed.

Marital advice … an open letter to my cousin

This is an open letter to my cousin whom is having a destination wedding.
I was unable to go due to timing. My sister just had a baby, as mentioned in prior posts she's a special needs. She is doing well, but I would've felt better being able to be there for her, with her during this new transition in her life.

Juny I don't say it often but I love you…. my first brother, my twin. For many years my other half. I want to congratulate you on your upcoming nuptials. May this day go smooth, may you and your bride be blessed beyond belief, may God our father anoint this union while you say your vows. I pray for your health, years of happiness, longevity, wisdom, strength, endurance, may your love and passion for one another always remain.

Mark 10:9: “Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate."
I pray that you both weather the storm, for there will be good days and there will be bad days, but trust in God, keep faith in God, keep hope in God to ride out the storms to come. Both of you Remember always marriage isn't a one way street, two people, joined together to become one, it's a 50/50. There may be times one or the other have to meet at the half way point. Always stay united.

Ephesians 4:2-3: “With all humility and gentleness, with patience, bearing with one another in love, eager to maintain the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace."

Love one another with all your night, remind each other often day it, display it, always keep an open Chanel of communication.
Ephesians 5:25: “For husbands, this means love your wives, just as Christ loved the church. He gave up his life for her."
But tell your bride that I said to love you just the same, love your husband the way Christ loves his church.

Remember to always be supportive of one another. Be each other's rocks. Be each other's support system.
Ecclesiastes 4:12: “Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken."

As I mentioned before you will have storms (later vs sooner). Always love each other even in the storm. Always talk it out, never go to bed angry at one another, as I said earlier always communicate.
1 Corinthians 13:4-5: “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs."

1 Peter 4:8: “Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins."

Nothing breaks my heart more than not being able to go to witness this big day for you. Nothing breaks my heart more than not being with my family during this time. I will be there in spirit covering you with blessings. I will be fasting and praying for you and your wife. May god bless you always.
I love you June.

Father God I ask that you cover this union in prayers. May they heed the advices of marriages others provide. May they always put you first my lord, may they always love and honor one another. Lord I ask you to bless them, protect them, let the Holy Spirit manifest in them so that he can guide their every step. I rebuke negativity and Harm in the name of Jesus. May their union be of a blessing, of love and success in their celebrations. In the name of the father, the son and the Holy Spirit Amen.

Perfectly Made

Psalms 139:14
I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Wonderful are your works; my soul knows it very well.
Mankind were made in the image of God. We are the only things from all creation whom look like God and were made physically by his hands. We were made to perfection.
Fast forwarding to millions of years after creation, we have entered an era of superficial societal norms and derivatives.
Gone are the days where Gods perfection was seen as beautiful. We are living during the times where people seek their own acceptance, societies own depictions of perfection.
You see it all the time, everywhere you turn, someone is doing a lift here, a snip there, a nip over here, and a tuck over there. Celebrities have long been famous for doing some nip tuck work to aspire to societal perfection. Regular folks have jumped on that bandwagon too.
Gone are the days of accepting the beauty God created in you. This summer we’ve been seeing the memes of Chicago cubs Sammy Sosa…Mr. Home run himself, how different you look today.
Sammy Sosa began bleaching his skin not too long after his Home run stardom.  Though to quote him, he claims he was not intentionally bleaching his skin, but using an ointment that just so happen to lighten his skin.  The man has said that himself, whether one chooses to believe it or not, it’s on the individual.  I am not here to judge the choices of those whom chose to alter in anyway the way God has made you.  I want to talk about self love, self hate and so forth.
Sammy is not the only one whom has had alterations to their physical form.  There are several others whom have taken the pathway to lighten their skin. Sammy you were beautiful just how God made you, you really didn’t need to do this. If it wasn’t intentional, you really didn’t have to continue mi pana.
I remember a few summers back, my nephew was about 4, I was sitting outside soaking up the son, for those of you whom don’t know I am Puerto Rican- a very light skinned Rican. I am married to a fellow Island folk from the Island of Grenada. My husband and his family is Dark skinned.
My nephew, has my husbands complexion and pigmentation. So I am sitting outside soaking up the son, hoping that I can catch a tan. My nephew sits next to me and asks “auntie what are you doing?” I responded “I am trying to catch a tan.” He asks “why?” I responded “because I love your complexion and I am trying to get as dark as I can possibly get.” My nephew thought about that for a few minutes, went inside, grabbed a towel and laid down next me to soak in the son. I asked him “what are you dong?”. He responded: “I want to lay in the son so that I can have skin like yours, light.”
My heart broke, my jaw dropped and suddenly realized my error in my explanation.
I told him that it was ok to change what you look like without embracing our exterior beauty from our creator.
I should have instead told him I loved feeling the warmth of the sun on my skin, which is true, I love the summer, I love the heat, I love the way the sun feels on me and I do also love that I can tan.  I should’ve left that part out of my conversation.
I explained to him his skin was beautiful. There was no need to change his. My skin is also beautiful and there is no need to change mine.
The thing is, when we sit in the sun, the sun burns our skin, and darkens it. In my case, my fair skin, will turn olive or light brown, yours will only get darker, your skin will not get lighter. He assumed that if he tanned the sun would work for him the way it would work for me.
My children have a nice caramel complexion. I let them know all the time, they are beautiful, we are beautiful, our skin regardless of our shades (and between the 4 of us we have 4 different shades) are uniquely beautiful. We have to value and appreciate what God has given us.
Many celebs have had work done, the kind of work they have done include any variations of:
Breast Enhancement: Augmentation, Lift, Reduction. Facial Contouring: Rhinoplasty, Chin, or Cheek Enhancement. Facial Rejuvenation: Facelift, Eyelid Lift, Neck Lift, Brow Lift. Body Contouring: Tummy Tuck, Liposuction, Gynecomastia Treatment, butt lift, etc.
Why the need to change your outward appearances?
Are you not happy?
Now the Bible doesn’t necessarily speak out against plastic surgery per say, since back then no one was getting plastic surgery done.
The problem we are facing here is the lack of self love we have.
Another problem we have is the lack of love for others.
We have entered a period of selfishness, greed, superficial obsessions and have fallen back on the things that truly matter in life. We are living in days where our lives are journal-ed on Instagram and Facebook, of course we don’t want to post ugly pictures, we want to post us modeling, our good side, looking for the right lighting, the right angle, the right backdrop to display my story, the right focus, the perfect filter…. all the superficial to complete our online journal. Suddenly we are all photographers and super models.
I am not saying we should let ourselves go nor am I saying we shouldn’t be presentable. No the Bible speaks on the our presentation, and it also speaks on those obsessed with our outer beauty vs our inner beauty and pure of heart. We should accept the perfect us God has already created vs trying to create our own perfect version of ourselves.
Society, racism, discrimination plays a role as to why people alter their appearances. Social norms are superficial, social norms are materialistic, these “norms” are destroying lives, destroying self love, adding to racism, discrimination, bigotry and self hate. The skin you are in is beautiful. White is beautiful, brown is beautiful, yellow is beautiful, black is beautiful, olive is beautiful and every complexion in between is beautiful.
I will not lie, as mentioned before I do love a tan during the summer months, love the embrace of the suns rays on my skin. I don’t mind the heat. I was born in the mid of the summer (8/1). I love the summer. I also love my complexion I am somewhere between white and olive, but can get olive brown if I get enough rays. I usually doesn’t, but I can. I don’t obsess over the need to darken my skin. If I catch a tan Amen, I don’t Amen.
We were made perfect in the lords eyes. There’s no need to change anything of it.
Father God I thank you for making exactly as I am. I am your child, I am perfectly content with how you made me. I pray for this suffering from insecurities that are brought upon due to social constructs and social norms of today. I pray for those like Sammy Sosa, whom were not happy with their outer appearance, I hope and pray they are truly happy with their exterior changes from within. I hope we as a people do not upset you or have offended you with decisions we tend to make. I ask for forgiveness if I have dear lord. I pray for humanity so that our social norms no longer hinder others opinions about themselves, I pray that we all promote self love and love for one another. We can all agree to disagree on religion, politics, faith, preference etc, but may we all find love and peace in society to coexist. Amen.

Left to Chance

So I began to read a book which made me reassess my life and relationships.

Left to Chance
by Amy Sue Nathan

Before I start my review here is a synopsis from goodreads.com where I won this book in a giveaway.

The website synopsis:

From the author of The Good Neighborand The Glass Wives comes an enchanting story of returning home and discovering what truly matters after loss.

No one knows why Teddi Lerner left her hometown, but everyone knows why she’s back.

Twelve-year-old Shayna— talented, persistent, and adorable—persuaded "Aunt Tee" to return to Chance, Ohio, to photograph her father’s wedding. Even though it's been six years since Shay's mother, Celia, died, Teddi can hardly bear the thought of her best friend's husband marrying someone else. But Teddi’s bond with Shay is stronger than the hurt.

Teddi knows it’s time to face the consequences of her hasty retreat from family, friends, and, her old flame, but when she looks through her viewfinder, nothing in her small town looks the same. That’s when she truly sees the hurt she's caused and—maybe—how to fix it.

After the man she once loved accuses Teddi of forgetting Celia, Teddi finally admits why she ran away, and the guilt she’s carried with her. As Teddi relinquishes the distance that kept her safe, she’ll discover surprising truths about the people she left behind, and herself. And she'll finally see what she overlooked all along.

I cried, I laughed and I truly enjoyed reading this book. I can relate to Teddi and why she ran away, why she stood away. Sometimes when we loose people we love, we close up ourselves, we isolate ourselves in our grief, thinking we cannot function with out our departed loved ones…. whether or not they passed away or decided to travel across the country for a new life.

I was able to channel the emotions Teddi under went. I was able to relate to her struggles, her fears, her anxieties and her being around people she has not been around in years. I connected to the character on a deeper personal level, having somewhat been there myself.

I enjoyed this book.
I cried with this book.
I laughed with this book.
I sighed with this book.
I was happy with this book.

Eloquently written, easy read, easy to follow.

I recommend everyone read this.

This book also allowed me to take a step back and reflect on my relationships.
I keep thinking about how much things have changed.
In general.
How much time has passed.
How much I've changed.
How much my friends have changed.
How I went back to being the person I once was, without the same people who were originally there when I was that person.
How different it all feels.
Then I thought if anything happened to my "best friends" I wouldn't ever know.
Their significant others wouldn't tell me because I have no friendship with them.
Not by choice, distance.
They wouldn't even know I existed to contact.

I face my struggles and my challenges alone.
How are my "best friends" dealing with there's?
Teddi' longed for her phone conversations with her deceased Celia, the way I long for talks my friends.
Teddis life was drastically changed when her friend left her life, as was mine when my friends left mine to a start a new elsewhere.

Social media allows for some sort of contact with your loved ones, but it is so impersonal. Nothing like a phone call, nothing like a hey text, nothing like one on one face to face interaction if possible.

We've all moved on with our lives. We all have new friends, some even have new best friends, new things that matter. I am not the same person you once knew, you are not the same person I remembered.

Life is about growth. Some people are meant to be with you at given points in your walk, and then they branch off.
Some people are meant to walk the distance with you and be by your side.
If you love someone's, do not abandon them regardless of the circumstance.

What a nice lesson and reflection from this amazing book. Everyone is mourning, everyone too needs help in their journey. I mourn losses daily. We all wonder about the what ifs.

This book comes out on November 2017. Pre order it. It's going to be a good read and a great way to self reflect your existing and past relationships.

Poem 

I remember the day I first laid eyes on you.I was captivated.

Stuck in you like glue.

Being with you is what I wanted, I was motivated.

When you spoke my name,

And asked for my number,

I knew things would never be the same.

That night I did not slumber.

I thought you were the one.

I saw a future with you.

The rest of the niggas, yes I was done.

My love for you was so true.
I saw light skinned babies.

Straight black hair.

I saw us together until we reach our eighties.

I saw light eyes.

Someone I could speak my native tongue with for all eternity.

Yet so many lies….

I loved you.

I really did.

To you I was true….

What was done could not be undid.

I am happy now without you.

No lies, 

no drama

no tears.

Don’t come looking for me, 

while I am happy and free.
My kids, my husband,

they are my world.

i will never abandon them,

not even for you.

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