Still Get UP

Proverbs 24:16 The righteous may fall seven times but still get up, but the wicked will stumble into trouble
A few weeks ago I saw two posts from TD James and I was just moved. Both posts correlate with one another. Both posts have a cause and effect factor. Both post reflects agents of change within oneself.
One of the posts were about failure. The other was about change agents.
We have all been in a place where we have felt like complete failures. No matter what we do, no matter what we say, no matter what we just keep failing.
Right now I feel like I’m soaring everywhere but in my own home. I feel like I am free falling to my inevitable kaput.
Have you ever seen looney tunes?
I’m wild E coyote chasing after the road runner. I follow the road runner, thinking that I am going to get my prize, then low and behold I was so blind sighted by the prize that I didn’t pay attention to my surroundings. I didn’t realize I had stepped over the cliff, the road, the gravel, the sand, the desert are no longer beneath my feet.
I can see the road runner up ahead. I can hear it say “beep, beep” as he sets off into the sunset. Now I realize my desperation and my despair. I look below I see nothing, I look around and see nothing. I’m stories high and now I am free falling.
We’ve all been there.
I am currently there today.
I am spiraling down free falling at home.
Where did I go wrong?
We tend to have a bad habit in the midst of these trials to not seek God for guidance. Luckily for me I know better, based on my experiences, to know to seek and praise him in the good times as well as the bad times. Today I seek refuge in God to give me guidance, words or whatever he has for me to fix this situation.
Back to TD Jakes posts.
3 ways to fail at everything in life:
1- complain about everything
2- blame others for your problems.
3- never be grateful
Based on his points here is how I failed:
I complained about my situation at home:
I blamed everyone for my problem.
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My six year old has become very sassy. He has become very lazy, he suddenly has become a smart mouth. He has become very disrespectful as of late. Instead of getting to the root of the problem I have reprimanded him. As a mother I feel his failures are my failures. I complained about our circumstance and fully blamed him. Whereas my lack of providing the guidance needed is also the problem. I too am to blame.
We all go through situations where our children do something and we react. Sometimes the built up stress of our every day lives are channeled at the wrong time. I need to assess myself as well as my child so we can stop blaming others. Accept responsibilities for our faults and move onward. Parenting and our walk in Christ are always evolving and something we learn from with each day, each event, each second.
The second post from TD Jakes said the following:
5 characteristics of change agents
1- clear vision
2- patient yet persistent
3-ask tough questions
4-knowledgeable & leads by example
5- strong relationships built on trust.
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This is where I am trying to get to with my problem at home.
I need to see the bigger picture. See clearer. I cannot do this if I am raging. I need to be patient but get to the root of the problem, the interior problem within me and the interior problem with my child. Patience will be needed since that may take a little bit longer. I do need to ask the tough questions. To myself and my child. I will need to lead by my example and show him I too am learning, i too make mistakes but this is how we fix, learn and grow from these mistakes. I need to ensure that my relationship stays strong. Right now is the time to fix it before it gets out of hand.
Right now I need to focus on the bigger picture.
Right now the bigger picture is not loosing my son, getting him to respect and to have reverence.
Right now the bigger picture is also to work within myself and battle this battle I am dealing with so that I may not lose who I am.
Father God I thank you for all that you have given me. I thank you for your guidance. I thank God for allowing me to utilize writing as a self reflection as well as to reassess my actions. God this tool could also be used for others who may have similar yet different experiences. Though I felt this Morning that the road was pulled from under my feet, I know it was your guidance that made me realize what steps I need to take to fix this. Lord I pray for the reader reading this who has a similar situation. I ask you to give them the knowledge and wisdom to assess, reflect, distress and approach their circumstances in a christian like way. Father I ask for forgiveness for my actions, I also ask for forgiveness for my child. Father please guide us both when I approach him on this manner. Father guide the reader reading this, as they approach the battles they are facing. May we be reverent in your cause. May you provide words and comfort. Amen.
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​ Bless others with your light

Bless others with your light.
Matthew 5:16
In the same way, let your light shine before others, so that they may see your good works and give glory to your Father who is in heaven.
There is this trend where many gather to sip some wine and paint with friends. It’s actually a pretty cool way to DE-stress from a crazy week by painting your worries away in good company….. in some cases with a good glass of wine.
I like this concept of hanging out yet doing something therapeutic. One evening my friends and I decided to take a much needed mommy break and the 3 of us decided to join one of these sip and paint classes. We painted, we fellow shipped and we drank soda lol. So we technically “sipped” and painted.
After our fun evening we all felt this is something we could do with our fellow parishioners and friends. We approached our pastoral leadership, once we got the approval, we asked our members and when we got enough interests we decided to go ahead and plan the event…. but in our church’s basement, as a fellowship/ fundraiser.
On the day of the event I opened up the church to begin getting things in order. A few members began cooking so we can have additional food for the potluck. The instructors for the class arrived, we went to help them unload, we helped them arrange the furniture to ensure not only the instructors were comfortable and had space but that when the painters arrive there’s space for mobility, space for them to view painting and of course comfort.
We helped them set up and prep. The instructor kept saying sit, relax, our agreement is we do all the work. He obviously doesn’t know me I can’t sit idle …. ever, and our parishioners are the same, always helping, always of service.
Our initial agreement was we pay for 20 painters up front. Minimum for a mobile event is 20.
I paid for the 20, but knew X amount of people where going to come. The Instructor said in the event of cancellations individuals 21& on will pay day of. I agreed and we proceeded to set up for the x amount of people whom stated were coming.  Though I just wanted to pay for everyone up front.
As people arrived, we started feeding them fruit salad on this hot summer day. We also fed our instructors. When all the participants arrived I asked the instructor hey let me give you the money for those participants. He stated don’t worry about that now we will discuss that later on. So the class began.
We painted, sang songs while painting, we cracked jokes that even the instructors partook in our fellowship. Mid way we took a break. We ate, fed our instructors and again I approached him about the remainder of the money, he told me don’t worry about the money we can talk about that later.
We went back to painting. After we painted and when it was time for clean up, we helped him dismount and put away the materials. As the members were gathering their tip, I again approached the lead instructor regarding the money. He said ma’am, we’ve done several of these types of events, there are times that we don’t even get offered a glass of water, our agreement was that you sit back, worry about your painters and we will set up and clean up. Yourself and many of your guests have not sat back, from the moment we arrived up until now you have taken really good care of us. You’ve embraced us, you’ve fed us, you’ve hydrated us, you’ve included us. We were supposed to take care of you, and instead you took care of us. Call us even. Give the money for those individuals to the church with whatever was raised for today. We thank you for your hospitality and love.
I will not disclose the amount of painters he did not charge me for. But that amount will be of a blessing to the church. We raised all together a good amount. Double what I had anticipated. God is good!
Lesson here:
Your actions, how you treat others are a testimony of who we are. Your actions, how you treat others are a blessings to others. You actions, how you treat others can bring back blessings to you, even when least expected. I wish the business we partnered with for the event much blessings, love and success. They blessed us more than they could even imagine. I am glad at the end of the day it was a mutual blessing. For them, for the church and myself, who was touched and moved by his words and his generosity. He didn’t have to donate money for those individuals to the church, yet he did. To God be all the Glory! Once again I humbly thank them.
I shared this testimony with the church the Sunday following the event, not to gloat at how much we raised, not my good deeds, for it wasn’t just myself who helped it was many others who rolled up their sleeves and helped. He didn’t see one person doing all the work, he saw a team of people working together for one same cause, to God all the Glory. It was our actions, our love, our kindness not my love, not my actions nor my kindness, but all of our actions that led him to his decision.
Father God I humbly thank you for your Constance guidance and love. I thank you for my church and the light of love, the light of compassion and the light of your grace overflowed that Saturday. We were able to touch this mans heart for him to bless us in your name. Lord we thank you for allowing our gestures to minister to his heart. We thank you for using all of us, despite our age differences, we all showed the same love and compassion. We all ministered…. even this man ministered back to us, with his actions, with his love and his emotions. Thank you Lord, for we will continue to give you all the glory. AMEN.