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​ Bless others with your light

Bless others with your light.
Matthew 5:16
In the same way, let your light shine before others, so that they may see your good works and give glory to your Father who is in heaven.
There is this trend where many gather to sip some wine and paint with friends. It’s actually a pretty cool way to DE-stress from a crazy week by painting your worries away in good company….. in some cases with a good glass of wine.
I like this concept of hanging out yet doing something therapeutic. One evening my friends and I decided to take a much needed mommy break and the 3 of us decided to join one of these sip and paint classes. We painted, we fellow shipped and we drank soda lol. So we technically “sipped” and painted.
After our fun evening we all felt this is something we could do with our fellow parishioners and friends. We approached our pastoral leadership, once we got the approval, we asked our members and when we got enough interests we decided to go ahead and plan the event…. but in our church’s basement, as a fellowship/ fundraiser.
On the day of the event I opened up the church to begin getting things in order. A few members began cooking so we can have additional food for the potluck. The instructors for the class arrived, we went to help them unload, we helped them arrange the furniture to ensure not only the instructors were comfortable and had space but that when the painters arrive there’s space for mobility, space for them to view painting and of course comfort.
We helped them set up and prep. The instructor kept saying sit, relax, our agreement is we do all the work. He obviously doesn’t know me I can’t sit idle …. ever, and our parishioners are the same, always helping, always of service.
Our initial agreement was we pay for 20 painters up front. Minimum for a mobile event is 20.
I paid for the 20, but knew X amount of people where going to come. The Instructor said in the event of cancellations individuals 21& on will pay day of. I agreed and we proceeded to set up for the x amount of people whom stated were coming.  Though I just wanted to pay for everyone up front.
As people arrived, we started feeding them fruit salad on this hot summer day. We also fed our instructors. When all the participants arrived I asked the instructor hey let me give you the money for those participants. He stated don’t worry about that now we will discuss that later on. So the class began.
We painted, sang songs while painting, we cracked jokes that even the instructors partook in our fellowship. Mid way we took a break. We ate, fed our instructors and again I approached him about the remainder of the money, he told me don’t worry about the money we can talk about that later.
We went back to painting. After we painted and when it was time for clean up, we helped him dismount and put away the materials. As the members were gathering their tip, I again approached the lead instructor regarding the money. He said ma’am, we’ve done several of these types of events, there are times that we don’t even get offered a glass of water, our agreement was that you sit back, worry about your painters and we will set up and clean up. Yourself and many of your guests have not sat back, from the moment we arrived up until now you have taken really good care of us. You’ve embraced us, you’ve fed us, you’ve hydrated us, you’ve included us. We were supposed to take care of you, and instead you took care of us. Call us even. Give the money for those individuals to the church with whatever was raised for today. We thank you for your hospitality and love.
I will not disclose the amount of painters he did not charge me for. But that amount will be of a blessing to the church. We raised all together a good amount. Double what I had anticipated. God is good!
Lesson here:
Your actions, how you treat others are a testimony of who we are. Your actions, how you treat others are a blessings to others. You actions, how you treat others can bring back blessings to you, even when least expected. I wish the business we partnered with for the event much blessings, love and success. They blessed us more than they could even imagine. I am glad at the end of the day it was a mutual blessing. For them, for the church and myself, who was touched and moved by his words and his generosity. He didn’t have to donate money for those individuals to the church, yet he did. To God be all the Glory! Once again I humbly thank them.
I shared this testimony with the church the Sunday following the event, not to gloat at how much we raised, not my good deeds, for it wasn’t just myself who helped it was many others who rolled up their sleeves and helped. He didn’t see one person doing all the work, he saw a team of people working together for one same cause, to God all the Glory. It was our actions, our love, our kindness not my love, not my actions nor my kindness, but all of our actions that led him to his decision.
Father God I humbly thank you for your Constance guidance and love. I thank you for my church and the light of love, the light of compassion and the light of your grace overflowed that Saturday. We were able to touch this mans heart for him to bless us in your name. Lord we thank you for allowing our gestures to minister to his heart. We thank you for using all of us, despite our age differences, we all showed the same love and compassion. We all ministered…. even this man ministered back to us, with his actions, with his love and his emotions. Thank you Lord, for we will continue to give you all the glory. AMEN.
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​ Light in the Darkness

Light in the Darkness
“When darkness overtakes him, light will come bursting in…”
(Psalm 112:4, TLB)
God is light.
In our darkest hours, many of turn to Christ fo help, why?
We seek his light to help us during our difficult times.
his light, when we allow him to pierces through all darkness and brightens it all.
When we go through difficult times it is important to lean on one another for support. It is important that we do not find ourselves in darkness. It is important we do not let the trials and tribulations take over us. It’s easy for that to happen, easy to get lost within the darkness.
I know first hand.
Everyone goes through difficult times, even the dutiful and the faithful. We were forewarned that following his way will come with persecution and hardships. It’s during these difficult and dark times that we need to remember we are not alone. God will forevermore be with us.
When I was just 18, about to begin my life, about to start school, still innocent, still pure, though I was aware of my carnal surroundings and a bit open minded, in many ways I was still very naive and in the dark to worldly affairs. It was easy to get lured despite being forewarned. It was easy to spiral in to a dark abyss, it wasn’t because of my lack of faith, it was because of my lack of trust.
Despite growing up in a church where everyone was pretty much family some way shape or form (the pastors are my brothers godparents….which makes us all family), I had trust issues. I had trust issues in church (I rarely opened up about my personal life). I had trust issues at home (tell a relative what’s going on and the whole family knows, even relatives you haven’t seen since you were in diapers….typical Latin household eh). I had trust issues outside in the world. I had that stone cold Steve Austin philosophy D.T.A. (Don’t trust anybody).
My biggest regret that I can openly discuss today, because looking back I was foolish, is that I should’ve opened up and discussed my issues. I never told my pastoral leadership, whom could’ve counseled me, prayed with me (though I do not doubt for a split second that my pastor has ever ceased to pray for me), I never told my fellow peers in church, whom could’ve helped me via their fellowship, words and prayers before I began to spiral, I never told my parents whom could’ve held my hands during this painful time. I never told my best friend…that is until she confessed she had a similar issue (five years later).
When I sat in that exam room and was told nope sorry, your chances of starting a family is like picking a needle in a haystack, my whole life was turned upside down.
I wasn’t sexually actively.
I was aware of my sensuality And sexuality.
I wasn’t engaging in anything.
I was just starting life.
I was just beginning to “find myself”
I was already being told my future would be without any off springs.
I was dating someone at the time…. who I had no idea where we were headed.
We weren’t even intimate.
We flirted.
We talked.
Sure we kissed.
We held hands.
We would see the sunset together.
We had a great time just being friends getting to know each other.
After my appointment I started pleading why God?
Instead of reaching out to loved ones and those who would genuinely be there for me, I turned to the arms of this older man I was dating and getting to know.
We drank, he smoked, while I inhaled his contact high.
We drank, we fornicated.
I drowned my worries.
He had no idea why I gave myself to him.
He had no idea I stopped caring.
He had no idea I was spiraling and internally in a very dark place.
I needed a burst of light in my life.
That burst came.
He sent me my husband who taught me to trust.
I then wanted To be a new.
I asked god for forgiveness.
I also had to forgive myself for my thinking and my behavior.
His light did burst through.
I received my blessings.
Now I talk about it.
You may notice ever so often I’ll continue to talk about it.
My past, my story, my pain, can be of help to someone else.
Maybe my mistake will be used to help someone else spiral down like i did.
It is easy to let the flesh win.
It’s a constant battle we have when facing trials.
Don’t let darkness overcome you.
Remember he is the light, the only light you need to illuminate your path.
It may be difficult.
You may need to surround yourself with different people.
You may need to open up to the right people.
You may need to refocus on your relationship with Christ.
If your in a dark spot, know your light will shed.
His light will pour upon you.
Just open up a bit.
Father God I thank you for your timing. I thank you for the people you’ve put in my life. I thank you for illuminating me in my tribulations. I am eternally thankful for you. You have shown me that you will always be with me, even when I feel alone. I ask that your light remain in me, with me and around me, so I may never end up in that dark place again. Amen

Ironmen

I am surrounded by strong iron men.

IronMen. Not the Marvel version, but my very own army of IronMen. Men whom are the embodiment of this scripture.

I am so blessed to have married a man whom has such amazing friends. I love their friendship. I love their honesty, I love the way they are frank, I love the multiple conversations that unfold around them, I love the way they love each other. Despite what one another is facing, they lift each other up. In the midst of their darkness, when facing their storms, they come together to find a solution to help each other out. That’s exactly living this proverb. My Iron Men.

They sharpen each other, they guide one another, they help one another, they grow with one another and these commodities are hard to find these days. They are Iron Men.

Fellowship is important. Laughter is good for the souls. Food is good for the belly.

One of the wives of my husbands and I were talking. (Well to be honest out of the 6 fellas it’s really only us 2 lol) throughout the years we have bonded and become sisters. We have become IronWoMen for one another.

She’s the godmother to one of my sons…. not something you give to just anyone. She is my family as is her husband to my husband. Last night we were talking about how much our men need one another, how much they need this fellowship as an outlet to be free. How when we both married our husband, in part we married all of them …. for they are all a packaged deal.

We know our men, the needs of our husbands and their brothers. We have come to step up to make sure that we are there for them despite the obstacles. To always support not just our husbands but the tribe. Our very own Ohana, family.

People from various backgrounds united by love. Everyone brings something to the table in their bond. Such s beautiful thing to witness.
I know many do not have that support system. I am very grateful my husband has his. His inner circle is a lot bigger than mine. Each person knows what they need.

Always be that friend to help the other grow and vice versa.

It is important to be with like minded people who can lift you up, who together you can make each other stronger. We need more of this in this world. We need more people uplifting one another in this world. We need more unity.
Father God, I thank you for the company of great friends. I thank you for making them family. I thank you for allowing us all to grow together and lift each other up. I know not everyone has these types of relationships, father I pray for those whom feel lonely. I pray they find someone to lift them. I am truly grateful for all your love, compassion and knowledge. I am Grateful Dear lord for th Iron Men and Iron WoMen in our lives. In your name we pray amen.