Right Companions

Right Companions
“One who has unreliable friends soon comes to ruin, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.”
(Proverbs 18:24, NIV)
Having the right companions can make a difference in ones life.
Having the wrong companions can totally break you.
We have friends who can destroy you, then you have friends whom are family.
I have had the unfortunate and fortune of having both in my life.
There is a Spanish Proverb that states: “Tell me who your friends are and I will tell you who you are”. “Dime con quien andes y te dire quien eres”.
Why is this saying important?
1 Corinthians 15:33New International Version (NIV)
Do not be misled: “Bad company corrupts good character.
Whom we surround ourselves can impact our judgement and our character.
We need to understand that we are called for greatness. God had a plan for you before you were even born.
To achieve this destiny for you, you need help.
God can align you with the right like minded folks to help achieve this destiny.
so you can Manifest within your destiny.
It is important to connect with the right people .
Certain people were already chosen for your path to inspire you, challenge you, nudge you a bit and help accomplish your dreams.
Everyone has great potential.
A friend will motivate you, even when you lack motivation.
A friend will give you words of inspiration, at the adequate moment.
A genuine friend will not fail you.
I have had instances where I made bad choices in friends.
I have even made bad choices in significant others.
They may not define who you are as a person. But they can influence you, more than we realize.
I had a friend once who influenced me to try weed. Not a grand moment in my life.
I could have said no, should have said no, I knew i needed to say no.
I was persuaded, I tried it, I didn’t like it and we went on our merry way.
We are still friends, but now, I influence her.
She now is studying the word.
She now is teaching the word to her children and is actively engaged in her church.
She no longer smokes weed.
That weed didn’t define me, it may have once influenced by judgement, but it didn’t define me.
“Tell me who your friends are and I will tell you who you are”.
Same goes with alcohol.
I have had moments in my life where i was the influencing or the one being influenced to try alcohol.
I was in a bad time in my life, I was surrounded by friends whom were filled with negativity.
You know how they say misery loves company.
Well, we were miserable, and we kept each others’ company.
It was a lo point in my life.
As i write this i can clearly see the players involved.
I vividly remember the influences we had for one another.
“Tell me who your friends are and I will tell you who you are”.
Now as a mother, I sit here and I encourage my son to encourage his friends.
I am happy he elected friends whom have the same interests.
They are all passionate on social justice issues and politics.
They are all passionate in their little endeavors.
They have similar interests, but even on their differences they support one another.
He literally has a melting pot of friends.
There was a time one of his friends for school spirit wanted to paint their nails in the school colors.
When he first told his mom, he was nervous he would be made fun of.
So the mom reached out to the other moms and we all said, have him talk the fellas, we will talk to the boys, if they decide to join him in solidarity we will support them. If they decide not to, its ok, we will also remind them, it is ok to be different and not always agree with others, but we must respect our friends.
The kids agreed to show solidarity they would all paint their nails.
My husband was not cool with this idea.
I had mixed feelings on the notion, but will not be apart of the problem of judgement.
I allowed my son to do so in solidarity.
These kids have been friends so far 2 years and counting, their love and bond for one another is almost like an extended family.
Friendships should be like this.
Some friendships should allow you to get close to people; even closer than relatives.
“Tell me who your friends are and I will tell you who you are”.
I have friends whom I consider family, more so than my own.
These are friends whom have been in the trenches with me, seen me get out, some have even picked me up from the trenches.
I also have seasonal friendships, friends who show up from time to time, but that time, that season we were friends was meant to be.
Sometimes friendships last a life time, sometimes they last a season.
I appreciate both.
Each friend is someone we can learn from, your relationship can also lead to personal, professional and spiritual growth.
Always remember, One who has unreliable friends soon comes to ruin, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.” Do not be misled: “Bad company corrupts good character. Do not be misled, but remember, there are friends who do stick closer than a brother.
Father God Thank you for your love, kindness, knowledge and the friends you have placed in my life. Thank you for each person who has entered, remained and even left my life. You know the reason why those whom remain, remain and why those whom left, needed to go. Lord I ask for continued guidance where my friendships do not mislead me. I ask for you to cover and protect my children so that their friends do not lead them astray nor corrupt their good characters. May we have friends who’s like minded and our bonds are like family. May we be able to nourish each other and grow not only in the flesh but spiritually. Give us the strengths needed to release the toxic friends in our life, to be able to discern the difference and proceed accordingly. Amen.
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#BFF
Tween’s, Teens and Millennial’s (myself included) are constantly using Hashtags (#) for everything.

#Iwokeup

#Iate

#IhashtagforNoReason
We tend to post pictures of our loved ones and besties.
#bff #MyBestFriendIsBetterThanYours #MyBestie

Spaces between words no longer exists with the hastag movement.

#IJumbleMyWordsTooLazyToUseTheSpaceBar.

What I often see a lot is the #BFF #BestFriends.

Now I don’t find that offensive in any way. I too have best friends, friends I love dearly, and occasionally when I post a picture on social media i also #bff to these pictures. (such a millennial lol – oh there I go LoL vs Laughing Out Loud).
I married a wonderful man, whom I consider my best friend. He is just truly amazing. Amazing Individual, Amazing Father, Amazing Husband, Amazing Son, Amazing son in law, Amazing member of our Church, Amazing brother in Christ and an Amazing Best Friend.
I also have my best friends whom I have had since child hood, best friends that no matter how many days go without us speaking, no matter how long we go without seeing each other, no matter where in the country they live (none of my best friends live near me…They have all continued their lives in other states, that is ok, because distance does not kill friendships, they are my besties despite distance). Yet I feel we are just close as we were when we lived near each other. Love friendships like this that can last the tests of times and distances.

My siblings are my best friends…we fight, we bicker, we get along…just like your average siblings. I love them and I consider them my best friends.

However my #BestFriendForever has been by my side from conception.
God the father, The Son and the Holy Spirit. The Divine Trinity has been by my side since day one, while undergoing mitosis and meiosis in the womb, when I was just a single cell, before becoming a full fetus/embryo.

The Holy Spirit has been with us from day one. The Holy Spirit is your true best friend forever. The trinity has been with us from the very beginning, while are cells are developing into bodies, God was apart of that process, ensuring that every aspect of you and I came to be as it is today. What kind of best friend would be with your during these early developments? A divine one. #HolySpiritBFF!!
1 Corinthians 6:19-20 New International Version (NIV) 19 Do you not know that your bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; 20 you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your bodies
From day one. the Holy Spirit is within us, the Holy Spirit, who is God, is within us, guiding us. Divine, holy, eternal, true, omnipresent, omnipotent, always and forever with us. #HolySpiritIsMyBFFemphasisOnForever.
John 14: 6 – But the Helper, the Holy Spirit, whom the Father will send in my name, he will teach you all things and bring to your remembrance all that I have said to you.
The Holy Spirit guides and Helps us. The Holy Spirit teaches us. Our worldly best friends can help us, but none in the way God can. #HolySpiritIsMyBFF
Romans 5:5 “Hope does not put us to shame, because God’s love has been poured into our hearts through the Holy Spirit who has been given to us.”
When we are Weak, the Holy spirit lifts us, guides us, intercedes for us, searches our hearts, knows our thoughts, encourages us, for God’s will. The Holy Spirit has done for you and I more than any one of our Best friends in the flesh has.

#MyBestFriendTheHolySpiritIsBetterThanYours. (ok, maybe that was a bit much…we do not want to gloat…father forgive me, but you get the idea.)
Romans 8:26-27 “Likewise the Spirit helps us in our weakness. For we do not know what to pray for as we ought, but the Spirit himself intercedes for us with groanings too deep for words. And he who searches hearts knows what is the mind of the Spirit, because the Spirit intercedes for the saints according to the will of God.”
The Spirit counsels us with Wisdom, understanding and knowledge.
Isaiah 11:2 And the Spirit of the Lord shall rest upon him, the Spirit of wisdom and understanding, the Spirit of counsel and might, the Spirit of knowledge and the fear of the Lord.
Currently at my church we are in the midst of studying the Trinity, but particularly the role of the Holy Spirit. These classes of the Holy Spirit has inspired this post. If you didn’t know you will now know that the Holy Spirit is God. He is apart of the trinity. We do not have Gods, but a God.
The Holy Spirit is a divine aspect where you can feel God. A mediator. The trinity Is God our father, God the son, God the Holy Spirit. One God, three variations of God, yet the same one true God.
In these lessons, from where we have gotten to thus far we learned the personality of the Holy Spirit, we’ve learned the various names the Bible refers to the Holy Spirit (OT & NT). We learned the role the Holy Spirit places in our lives.
The main emphasis given throughout the lesson is building a relationship with God using the Holy Spirit. Just like in your friendships and relationships here, you have to build a relationship. You need to be open, honest, show love and affection, be close with the Holy Spirit. Treat God as your best friend… share with him. Have God be your #bff. That is possible. The Holy Spirit makes it possible.
Remember as mentioned before the Holy Spirit was there with you from day one. Don’t hold out, God knows you better than you do, but still maintain a relationship. The same way your closest friend knows with just one glance what you are thinking…. you still tell your friend everything.
God I thank you, I thank you for sending a piece of you to me. I thank the Holy Spirit for being that direct connection to you. For being my best friend from day one. For guiding me, enlightening me, pushing me, embracing me, toughening me, teaching me and loving me. Thank you for the outpouring love, for the miracles you have given in my life, and the miracles that have yet to come. I trust in you my lord, my true Best Friend forever. Amen.

#GodAlmightyIsMyBestFriend