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Stumbling Block: Excessive Questioning: Casting Stones

When they kept on questioning him, he straightened up and said to them, “Let any one of you who is without sin be the first to throw a stone at her.”  – John 8:7 NIV
Imagine being in the shoes of the adulteress who was being condemned.  She was preparing herself for the inevitable moment.  Her Death.
Then low and behold Jesus came and said, “Let any one of you who is without sin be the first to throw a stone at her.” Just like that each one dropped their stones.  Each one walked away.  This image chosen reflects exactly what happened.  Jesus showed Love. She Reconciled.  He Forgave her. He showed Mercy (not included in the image but adding it in), He Restored her, and her faith.
Us as followers, how many times have we been in a situation where we doubt, we judge, we ask questions, tons of questions, we throw stones, knowing all to well we were once at the receiving end of this stone lashing.
We ask what happened, how it happened, how did you let it happen, why ? Who, What, Where, When and Why? In school we are usually talk the 5 W’s are good to get to the root of the problem, whether in science or reading a novel.  In life, they can do two things, help or condemn.  When someone is lost and is seeking guidance the 5 W’s just pushes them further away.  All they see or think is that your casting out our judgement and throwing these stones.  You may be doing it subconsciously, you be me trying to help, sometimes these added extra questions are stumbling blocks in ones walk.
We tend to forget. We cast stones. We were forgiven, yet find it hard to pardon others, we have reconciled yet find it hard to see others reconcile, we have been restored, but sometimes become a stumbling block on the restoration of others, we have been shown love, yet forget to love all.  We have had our faith restored, yet we hinder the restoration of the faith of others.
What I like about the story of the adulteress is that it reminds us, we are all sinners, we are all flesh or the flesh.  We can not cast stones when we ourselves are impure. 
Drop your stones. Remember we were once in the place of the adulteress.  We stood once in her shoes, had the same fears, sensed death was about to take us out of our misery. Yet here we are. Here we stand, a stone in one’s hand.  
Drop that stone.  Reflect in your walk.  Forgive, show love, restore, reconcile, show mercy, and guide someone in their faith, in their walk.  Do not be an additional stumbling block for that person’s blessing or salvation.  Remember we were once there.
Father God today I learned a lesson about the various stumbling blocks of faith. How these stumbling blocks hinder our walk. How sometimes we are the stumbling blocks that intervene in someones blessing.  Lord there were 13 stumbling blocks I learned today, yet today i chose to talk about the excessive talking/ judgement that can lead to someone’s blessing being lost.  Lord I ask that you guide me not to be a hindrance or stumbling block on someones blessing nor salvation.  May I drop any stones I may accidentally pick up, may I remember I was once in those shoes, that I once needed guidance, I was once lost, but now I am found.  May we all be used as a step to  aid and restore someones faith. Amen


Recently my son sang I Smile by Kirk Franklin at church. The song stated, no matter your circumstance, regardless of what your going through, God is working on it, while he is working on it, smile.
Why should I smile if I’m going through a storm? A smile is good for ones soul…while you wait for Gods work to come full circle. A smile and the type of smile can say a lot about a person.  
Smile in the midst of your storms.

Give yourself a reason for joy while in pain.
Fill your heart with positivity.

Greet others with a smile.
That smile you give someone could be a blessing to that person.
“I am blessed to be in your presence” is the message you give.

Prov. 15:30 A cheerful look brings joy to the heart, and good news gives health to the bones.
You can literally be of a blessing to someone with a simple smile. So smile. Make someone’s day and just smile. Fight adversity with a smile, show love with a smile.
A smile is like greeting someone with a kiss in the cheek.

2 Cor. 13:12 Greet one another with a holy kiss.
A smile doesn’t cost you anything to give.

A smile isn’t painful.

A smile will give you a wonderful feeling from within.

A smile can connect you to the Holy Spirit and make a huge impact on your life.
“I almost gave up, 

but a power that I can’t explain,

fell from heaven like a shower.(When I think how much better I’m gonna be when this is over)

I smile, even though I’m hurt see I smile,

I know God is working so I smile,
Even though I’ve been here for a while

I smile, smile…

it’s so hard to look up when you look down.

I sure would hate to see you give up now

You look so much better when you smile, so smile.” – Kirk Franklin 
So smile .
Father, today we are seeing an increase of depression. Many families are under financial distress, many are facing emotional difficulties, many are battling illnesses, many have faced losses, many are feeling lonely. All these circumstances can lead one in a natural state in depression. Lord I ask you to cover anyone I know whom are in the midst of a depression storm. I pray that they can be guided the Holy Spirit to trust in you, to have faith in you. To be able to have the energy to put on a smile while they are facing their struggles. It’s not easy being in pain, struggling and being able to smile. It’s not easy, depending the severity of their trials. I ask you to give them the strength, the power and will to not only smile but face their adversary, depression. Trust in him dear reader. Have faith in him, smile, and if you know someone whom is suffering from depression, pray, reach out, show love and smile with them.



 “…Let your light shine before others, 

that they may see 

your good deeds 

and glorify 

your father in heaven.”  

Matthew 5:16 (NIV)

Good deeds are hard to come by. It’s a saying that I keep hearing time and time again.
Then we have folks that always have to share their good deeds. Broadcast ant time they help someone. That should not be the case.
We should not need to boast every time a deed is done. When you do something for someone great. How did it make them feel? How did it make you feel? How do you think God feel? That good act you did glorifies God. He felt awesome, glad, proud. Saying that’s my son…. attaboy…. there’s my princess….attagirl.
Why now does one need to seek the approval of the masses on social media?
Do you remember (not gonna lie I just sang do you remember mentally Michael Jackson in my head ), but do you remember a time before social media? A time when good deeds were only shares with the parties involved?
They felt great, you felt great, God felt great. Now we have people whom boast…. do you know what God is probably doing??? 
Here’s an imagery:

God just saw your deed. God says ” yes my child, shine my child, hallelu….. wait… what are you doing?”

God: shakes his head, hands up asking:

God : “why????

do you value their opinions more than mine?

“Do you need their approval?

That feeling you had before, I gave you that, I told you to do that…. was I not enough?”
Let’s not idolize others.

Let’s not seek the approval of others.

It’s ok to share when giving a testimony.

To share for approval, to boast that you did a good deed….that’s not pure of heart. That hurts God.
Next time you do a good deed, savor that moment with God.

You will shine, your acts just glorified him. Let’s keep somethings simple, something’s discreet, something’s private. Let’s not get lost and loose a blessing by seeking acceptance from others. Let’s live as if social media doesn’t exist in some cases. The only one we need approval from is God.
Father God I thank you today for another opportunity to lift your band in praise. I thank you for this day. I want to shine glorifying you and only you. Please help me keep that fire burning, help me continue to shine forever more. In your name I pray. AMEN 

Prestigious yet no prestige

Prestigious yet no prestige
I work for a prestigious organization which shall remain nameless. This organization is well known. This organization has great aspects to it. This organization I always aspired to some day join. There were expectations as an organization that have yet to be fulfilled. When I got hired there …. at first it was everything I had ever imagined it to be then….
The grass is not always greener on the other side.
Lies… lies…reneged promises. They dangle that carrot then they yank it away….. such a tease.
This organizations leadership needs guidance. They need prayers, they need education and understanding. Quick to find someone to blame in situations, quick not to investigate and research, quick to cross that ethical line of need be.
As an establishment I like the place. As an employee I’m starting to feel it’s time to go. My conscience, my moral beliefs and ethics are always on the line. My family are always up for discussion. I should not have to choose from being a good employee and being a good mom.
My right to privacy should be respected. Confidentiality had been breeched more than once. Loyalty is a myth. Bosses who defend their staff is a legend of days pasts.
I’ve been reflecting on whether to move on for quiet some time. To get back to my grassroots initiatives despite the drop in pay. To do something more meaningful to me. What I do at my “prestigious” organization is meaningful to the lives affected, the lives I help. However, I need something more rooted with a cause that aligns my heart where I can feel pure joy, despite the stress in what I do.
I once loved my job, I currently just tolerate it, passing time, waiting for when God says now is the time to go.
We as people buy into the hype of the name thinking due to its reputation it has to be worthwhile. Turns out it’s a big disappointment. My colleagues have similar feelings.
Why don’t you just leave?
Can we?
In this economy that we are living in?
A single income household cannot suffice with the demands of time for a family of 4.
Benefits, healthcare is what one needs to think about when you have children. Protect ones family and have their best interest.
Finding employment when the competition pool just keeps increasing. It’s hard finding work. You can apply, apply, apply and apply but that doesn’t guarantee a call from a prospective employee. This modern world is so digitized.
We have to teach our children the importance of networking so that they can increase their prospects of future employment. We have to teach our kids to do their best to ensure their resume and cover letters are superb, so that they can increase their chances of a call back, to be knowledgeable, personable and straight to the point during interviews so the interviewee can remember them among the candidate pool. We have to talk about our experiences so they can learn from them.
Oh this prestigious organization. Look where you left me.


Left me hopeless in ever believing that you were better.

Left me anxious to leave, no jet at the end of my shift.

This is like a pending bad break up from a relationship you had hoped and aspirations.

I once loved you.

Now I long to be free from your bondage.
Your name is prestigious, but there’s no prestige in working for you.
I no longer want to be in a relationship with you, counting on the days to be free from your oppression.

Shackles & Chains

Ever felt like you were trapped in a cell like Paul an Silas?Locked, trapped, shackled, surrounded by four walls?

Image result for paul and silas
We’ve all experienced moments where we felt at a loss. Trapped. Suffocated. Isolated.
We all face trials and tribulations, some are bigger than others, some can even leave you in a situation of imprisonment. (Please for your own sake don’t let it get to that point).
So how do we get out of it?

How do we face our trials? Our moments of isolation and imprisonment?
Do exactly what Paul and Silas did.

Have you not heard what happened?
While imprisoned they started praying and praising.

What good did that do you ask?

They were freed.

The earth shook, the doors opened, the walls crumbled and they were freed. The romans weren’t too pleased but that was the least of their concern.
During their imprisonment do you know what Paul and Silas did?

They prayed, they praised, they prayed, they praised and then they did it all again.

Then they were taken out of prison.

God got them out…. broke them free…. a biblical Prison Break.

The full story of the events mentioned can be found in Acts 16:16-40; verses 16-24 discuss the events that unfolded that got Paul and Silas in Jail.

Verse 25-About midnight Paul and Silas were praying and singing hymns to God, and the other prisoners were listening to them. 26 Suddenly there was such a violent earthquake that the foundations of the prison were shaken. At once all the prison doors flew open, and everyone’s chains came loose.
Prayers and praising God during the good and the bad God can release the shackles that bound you, he can break those chains. In the case of Paul and Silas it was literal, he literally broke the chains and shackled and freed them from their bondage.
This shows that their is power in calling on the name of Jesus. There is power in praising God. There is power in keeping faith even when the odds are against you. There is power in the grand I am.
Father today I ask you to free me from this bondage. To break away the shackles and chains. God I ask you to shake the earth so your presence is felt. I am grateful for you dear lord. Grateful for the air I breathe, the life you’ve given me, the people in my life. I’m grateful and thankful for all the life lessons you’ve taught me along the way. Even when the odds it seemed were stacked against me, you showed me that no matter what I am here, with you, and you will surpass this. I Pray for you reading this. That God provides you with what you need to break the chains, break those shackles and free you from your bondage. Amen.

Selective Listening and your Relationship.

“So why do you keep calling me ‘Lord, Lord!’ when you don’t do what I say?” (NLT) ( Luke 6:46 )
Do you know many of us have selective hearing.

Many among  us are unable to determine when God is speaking.

Many among us are confused.

Many among us listen, yet are selective.

Many among us call upon the Lord in times of need, but not in the good times.

Many call upon the Lord, but does not follow through with his directions.

Yet call upon him for help, expecting him to always answer, always find a solution without us ever doing our part.

Yer when prayers are not answered you question why? Why aren’t you helping me? Why me?  Well answer his question, ‘Why are you calling me….when you don’t do what I say…’

Ever had moments when you feel God is asking you to do something?

That is called conviction.

There are times he is picking up the phone, sending you a text, shooting you an email or knocking on that door so that you can do something that will not only glorify him, but help you in your situation, to give you a blessing, or for you to be a blessing on someone else.

Instead what do we do when he calls?

We run.



Miss that call.

Not open that door.

We run away.

What does running away do for you?

You probably just compromised yourself in that situation your trying to get out.

That help you needed is now gone.

That blessing you were going to receive   gone.

That blessing you could’ve been for someone else….. also gone.

We want the benefits of having a relationship with God, yet not obey when he extends a hand or calls. We want to have our cake and eat it too.

There are many whom  want the storms to pass, without doing our share.

We have to do some work. His works.

We have to pray.

We have to listen.

We have to do.

We can not conform to the times and be selective listeners when God calls.

When he reaches out, answer his call.

Answer his text.

Open that email.

Open that door.

Let him in.

Get to work.

It will all be worthwhile once you see the fruits of labor come to pass.

We need to maintain and build a relationship with God just like any other relationship in your life.

It’s not a give and take relationship it’s a give, help, listen, pray, do, praise, listen, glorify, pray, give, take, help, pray, read, listen, praise, do, glorify, do, act, listen, kneel, follow, lead, bless and be blessed kind of relationship. (I know I was repetitive in my word) my point is, sometimes you got start from the beginning, continue, repeat some things before you get what the Lord deems you need to get out of a situation.

Father God I thank you for always being there, you are my Emanuel for you are always with me. I ask you dear Lord to help me continue to keep the channels of communication open with you, so that I may always answer your call and do your will. I ask for guidance to always be able to know when it is you calling me. I ask for the ability to have the knowledge and understanding for any task you present before me so your will can be done. I pray that I can do my part, to maintain this relationship with you. To be close with you. To do your will. In the name of the Father, the Son and the Holy Spirit. Amen.

What to expect when your expecting…

Many expectant mothers have purchased this book, myself included. This book was amazing. Detailed. Helpful with the changes ones body goes through.

What about for special needs adults?

What to expect when your an expecting special needs adult. Not a catchy title, but nonetheless, needed.

Expectant mothers of the special needs population undergo extra testing, need extra emotional and mental support, need extra guidance, extra education.

Being pregnant is fun, hard, scary all at the same time, imagine how it may be for someone from the special needs population. My heart aches that my sister had to endure all these extra testings.  Of course the well being of the baby is of the upmost importance.

While we’ve been reading the what to expect books, it dawned on me, I haven’t seen any books that may disclose what she may be going through that I didn’t experience.  As soon as I thought that, she asked me.

I tried researching to see if such books exist. Nope. Nada. What I did find were blogs about special needs families.  Though are bodies are the same, going through the same things, more emotional support, education, resources, testings and patience are needed with caring for an expectant special needs mom…. and dad to be.

We really need to advocate more for special needs adults. More resources are needed.  I am thankful that my sister has the support system she needs.  I am thankful that we can help her emotionally. Thanlful she has is. Crying for those whom don’t have that support.

God I pray for the strength and guidance needed during this process. I pray for families across the globe going through similar circumstances we are.  I know dear lord we are not the first, nor will be the last. Please lord let us use this moment, this time to help those for the future. Amen.