This is an open letter to my cousin whom is having a destination wedding.
I was unable to go due to timing. My sister just had a baby, as mentioned in prior posts she's a special needs. She is doing well, but I would've felt better being able to be there for her, with her during this new transition in her life.
Juny I don't say it often but I love you…. my first brother, my twin. For many years my other half. I want to congratulate you on your upcoming nuptials. May this day go smooth, may you and your bride be blessed beyond belief, may God our father anoint this union while you say your vows. I pray for your health, years of happiness, longevity, wisdom, strength, endurance, may your love and passion for one another always remain.
Mark 10:9: “Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate."
I pray that you both weather the storm, for there will be good days and there will be bad days, but trust in God, keep faith in God, keep hope in God to ride out the storms to come. Both of you Remember always marriage isn't a one way street, two people, joined together to become one, it's a 50/50. There may be times one or the other have to meet at the half way point. Always stay united.
Ephesians 4:2-3: “With all humility and gentleness, with patience, bearing with one another in love, eager to maintain the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace."
Love one another with all your night, remind each other often day it, display it, always keep an open Chanel of communication.
Ephesians 5:25: “For husbands, this means love your wives, just as Christ loved the church. He gave up his life for her."
But tell your bride that I said to love you just the same, love your husband the way Christ loves his church.
Remember to always be supportive of one another. Be each other's rocks. Be each other's support system.
Ecclesiastes 4:12: “Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken."
As I mentioned before you will have storms (later vs sooner). Always love each other even in the storm. Always talk it out, never go to bed angry at one another, as I said earlier always communicate.
1 Corinthians 13:4-5: “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs."
1 Peter 4:8: “Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins."
Nothing breaks my heart more than not being able to go to witness this big day for you. Nothing breaks my heart more than not being with my family during this time. I will be there in spirit covering you with blessings. I will be fasting and praying for you and your wife. May god bless you always.
I love you June.
Father God I ask that you cover this union in prayers. May they heed the advices of marriages others provide. May they always put you first my lord, may they always love and honor one another. Lord I ask you to bless them, protect them, let the Holy Spirit manifest in them so that he can guide their every step. I rebuke negativity and Harm in the name of Jesus. May their union be of a blessing, of love and success in their celebrations. In the name of the father, the son and the Holy Spirit Amen.
So I began to read a book which made me reassess my life and relationships.
Left to Chance
by Amy Sue Nathan
Before I start my review here is a synopsis from goodreads.com where I won this book in a giveaway.
The website synopsis:
From the author of The Good Neighborand The Glass Wives comes an enchanting story of returning home and discovering what truly matters after loss.
No one knows why Teddi Lerner left her hometown, but everyone knows why she’s back.
Twelve-year-old Shayna— talented, persistent, and adorable—persuaded "Aunt Tee" to return to Chance, Ohio, to photograph her father’s wedding. Even though it's been six years since Shay's mother, Celia, died, Teddi can hardly bear the thought of her best friend's husband marrying someone else. But Teddi’s bond with Shay is stronger than the hurt.
Teddi knows it’s time to face the consequences of her hasty retreat from family, friends, and, her old flame, but when she looks through her viewfinder, nothing in her small town looks the same. That’s when she truly sees the hurt she's caused and—maybe—how to fix it.
After the man she once loved accuses Teddi of forgetting Celia, Teddi finally admits why she ran away, and the guilt she’s carried with her. As Teddi relinquishes the distance that kept her safe, she’ll discover surprising truths about the people she left behind, and herself. And she'll finally see what she overlooked all along.
I cried, I laughed and I truly enjoyed reading this book. I can relate to Teddi and why she ran away, why she stood away. Sometimes when we loose people we love, we close up ourselves, we isolate ourselves in our grief, thinking we cannot function with out our departed loved ones…. whether or not they passed away or decided to travel across the country for a new life.
I was able to channel the emotions Teddi under went. I was able to relate to her struggles, her fears, her anxieties and her being around people she has not been around in years. I connected to the character on a deeper personal level, having somewhat been there myself.
I enjoyed this book.
I cried with this book.
I laughed with this book.
I sighed with this book.
I was happy with this book.
Eloquently written, easy read, easy to follow.
I recommend everyone read this.
This book also allowed me to take a step back and reflect on my relationships.
I keep thinking about how much things have changed.
How much time has passed.
How much I've changed.
How much my friends have changed.
How I went back to being the person I once was, without the same people who were originally there when I was that person.
How different it all feels.
Then I thought if anything happened to my "best friends" I wouldn't ever know.
Their significant others wouldn't tell me because I have no friendship with them.
Not by choice, distance.
They wouldn't even know I existed to contact.
I face my struggles and my challenges alone.
How are my "best friends" dealing with there's?
Teddi' longed for her phone conversations with her deceased Celia, the way I long for talks my friends.
Teddis life was drastically changed when her friend left her life, as was mine when my friends left mine to a start a new elsewhere.
Social media allows for some sort of contact with your loved ones, but it is so impersonal. Nothing like a phone call, nothing like a hey text, nothing like one on one face to face interaction if possible.
We've all moved on with our lives. We all have new friends, some even have new best friends, new things that matter. I am not the same person you once knew, you are not the same person I remembered.
Life is about growth. Some people are meant to be with you at given points in your walk, and then they branch off.
Some people are meant to walk the distance with you and be by your side.
If you love someone's, do not abandon them regardless of the circumstance.
What a nice lesson and reflection from this amazing book. Everyone is mourning, everyone too needs help in their journey. I mourn losses daily. We all wonder about the what ifs.
This book comes out on November 2017. Pre order it. It's going to be a good read and a great way to self reflect your existing and past relationships.
“Fight the good fight of the faith. Take hold of the eternal life to which you were called when you made your good confession in the presence of many witnesses.”
(1 Timothy 6:12)
We have all been placed here for a specific reason. We all have a specific role to play and a specific fight we need to fight for our creator. Each one of us has a story. Some are simple, some are hard, some are very complex.
What we all have in common is no matter what our stories are, no matter what struggles we face, we all have the same fight. Yours may be more specific than mine, mine may be more specific than the person sitting next to me on this train, but we all have the same fight.
Our fight is a spiritual fight.
It’s is a fight for our faith.
It’s a fight for acceptance.
It is a fight for hope.
It is a fight for our eternal salvation.
Regardless of our backgrounds. Regardless of our hardships, the fight of faith is one in the same.
We were chosen to be Gods people.
We were chosen to be his prayer warriors.
We were chosen to spread his word.
We were chosen to defend him against the enemy.
Fighting the enemy could be tiresome.
He comes from Many angles.
He uses different pathways to deter not only your blessing but your faith in God.
He attacks us using our loved ones.
He attacks us using our colleagues:
He attacks us using random strangers.
He attacks us with illness.
He attacks us with stress.
He attacks us with uncertainty.
He attacks us by filling us with doubt.
Our faith is what can help us with this battle. We all have a pivotal role in this celestial fight for our eternity. Are you willing and able to pick up your arms (spiritual) and fight the good fight?
Are you going to continue to fast, continue to pray, continue to praise even during the hardship?
Job lost it all, was tested, over came his circumstance and in the end was blessed.
As parents, nothing hurts us more than seeing our children in anguish, pain and torment. As I am writing this, I have an uncle who’s son (my cousin) is in a hospital because he was found unresponsive in his room. Several exams were done to see where the problem lies. My aunt and my uncle are desperate in need of prayers.
We will fight this food fight with you for your son. We will take up our coats of arms, we will hold our shields, we will gather our swords and we will fight this good fight with you.
My grandmother told my uncle, ” he was chosen by God to do his work and that everything he is going through is the battle that he will face against the devil.”
God chose his son for his specific battle. He God will lift him up from this circumstance.
My young cousin maybe unresponsive right now. But I know deep down he is fighting. This poor young child…. whom has been through a lot in his life, please feel our prayers, please feel our thoughts, please feel our words, listen to the voice of God. Follow his lead little one, he will direct you, he will guide you, he will help you in this fight.
I am praying for you little champ.
You will come or victorious in Jesus name.
The lord will guide your doctors to reveal the nature to your current mysterious circumstances. God has he answers and in time will provide. While we wait I will pray. While we wait I ask for prayers. While you fight, we will fight with you.
Father God I ask you to cover your hands over my cousin and bring forth healing. I ask you to wake him from this nightmare. I am asking for healing and liberation in your name for this child. May he be liberated from the demons holding him down. I ask for strength for my aunt, uncle and family as they face this battle of the unknown. I ask for guidance, patience while awaiting diagnostics, I ask again for healing. I ask that anyone reading this can unite with my family in prayers. May the Holy Spirit move so that we can provide strength and liberation for my family. Lord your will, will be done. Amen.
“But you shall receive power when the Holy Spirit has come upon you; and you shall be witnesses to Me…”
(Acts 1:8, NKJV)
Receive Power of the Holy Spirit.
The Holy Spirit is essential in our Christian walk. Once we have received the Holy Spirit we shall be empowered by God. Now I’m not talking about the pinky and the brain I am going to take over the world empowerment. Being empowered by god is being provided wisdom when you lacked wisdom on a given subject. Being empowered means having courage when you fear. Being empowered by god means coming out of your comfort zone and take on a new role for his glory.
God strengthens us, he equips us with everything we need to move on to the next task he has for us.
Remember your victory is his victory. The scripture tells us that when Jesus ascended to heaven he told his disciples that he was sending his comforter. Who was that? The Holy Spirit of course .
The Holy Spirit doesn’t just comfort us, the bills Spirit I s our counselor, teacher
And our strength. The Holy Spirit provided for us. In order to receive the power and greatness god had in store for you, one needs to open your heart, open your mind, open your eyes, open your would and be ready to receive.
I challenge you today.
Receive gods power.
I challenge you.
Open your heart.
Open your eyes.
Open your mind.
Be ready to receive.
Invite the Holy Spirit and be willing and ready to be filled with gods power and glory.
Let the Holy Spirit do his works in you.
Read the Bible, as you read, pray and ask the Holy Spirit to speak to you.
Ask the Holy Spirit to reveal gods plan.
Invite him in.
Open the door.
Be ready to be equipped by the Holy Spirit.
I challenge you today.
Do you accept?
Pray with me.
Father God I want to be empowered by you. I want to feel the warmth of your spirit. I want to be equipes by you. I want to be used in your glory. God help me open my eyes to be able to see your wonder. God help me open my ears to be able to hear the call of the Holy Spirit. God help me open my mind so that doubt doesn’t pass my mind and I can accept your power. God open my heart for I want to be filled with your glory. Lord use me any way you seem fit using the Holy Spirit. I am willing, able and ready to receive your Holy Spirit who will equip me in this walk with you. Amen
A Prayer for Today
“Father, thank You for the Holy Spirit who is my helper in this life. I choose to open my heart to Your Word to receive power so that I can walk and live in the victory You have prepared for me in Jesus’ name. Amen.”
Recently my son sang I Smile by Kirk Franklin at church. The song stated, no matter your circumstance, regardless of what your going through, God is working on it, while he is working on it, smile.
Why should I smile if I’m going through a storm? A smile is good for ones soul…while you wait for Gods work to come full circle. A smile and the type of smile can say a lot about a person.
Smile in the midst of your storms.
Give yourself a reason for joy while in pain.
Fill your heart with positivity.
Greet others with a smile.
That smile you give someone could be a blessing to that person.
“I am blessed to be in your presence” is the message you give.
Prov. 15:30 A cheerful look brings joy to the heart, and good news gives health to the bones.
You can literally be of a blessing to someone with a simple smile. So smile. Make someone’s day and just smile. Fight adversity with a smile, show love with a smile.
A smile is like greeting someone with a kiss in the cheek.
2 Cor. 13:12 Greet one another with a holy kiss.
A smile doesn’t cost you anything to give.
A smile isn’t painful.
A smile will give you a wonderful feeling from within.
A smile can connect you to the Holy Spirit and make a huge impact on your life.
“I almost gave up,
but a power that I can’t explain,
fell from heaven like a shower.(When I think how much better I’m gonna be when this is over)
I smile, even though I’m hurt see I smile,
I know God is working so I smile, Even though I’ve been here for a while
I smile, smile…
. it’s so hard to look up when you look down.
I sure would hate to see you give up now
You look so much better when you smile, so smile.” – Kirk Franklin
So smile .
Father, today we are seeing an increase of depression. Many families are under financial distress, many are facing emotional difficulties, many are battling illnesses, many have faced losses, many are feeling lonely. All these circumstances can lead one in a natural state in depression. Lord I ask you to cover anyone I know whom are in the midst of a depression storm. I pray that they can be guided the Holy Spirit to trust in you, to have faith in you. To be able to have the energy to put on a smile while they are facing their struggles. It’s not easy being in pain, struggling and being able to smile. It’s not easy, depending the severity of their trials. I ask you to give them the strength, the power and will to not only smile but face their adversary, depression. Trust in him dear reader. Have faith in him, smile, and if you know someone whom is suffering from depression, pray, reach out, show love and smile with them.
“…Let your light shine before others,
that they may see
your good deeds
your father in heaven.”
Matthew 5:16 (NIV)
Good deeds are hard to come by. It’s a saying that I keep hearing time and time again.
Then we have folks that always have to share their good deeds. Broadcast ant time they help someone. That should not be the case.
We should not need to boast every time a deed is done. When you do something for someone great. How did it make them feel? How did it make you feel? How do you think God feel? That good act you did glorifies God. He felt awesome, glad, proud. Saying that’s my son…. attaboy…. there’s my princess….attagirl.
Why now does one need to seek the approval of the masses on social media?
Do you remember (not gonna lie I just sang do you remember mentally Michael Jackson in my head ), but do you remember a time before social media? A time when good deeds were only shares with the parties involved?
They felt great, you felt great, God felt great. Now we have people whom boast…. do you know what God is probably doing???
Here’s an imagery:
God just saw your deed. God says ” yes my child, shine my child, hallelu….. wait… what are you doing?”
God: shakes his head, hands up asking:
God : “why????
do you value their opinions more than mine?
“Do you need their approval?
That feeling you had before, I gave you that, I told you to do that…. was I not enough?”
Let’s not idolize others.
Let’s not seek the approval of others.
It’s ok to share when giving a testimony.
To share for approval, to boast that you did a good deed….that’s not pure of heart. That hurts God.
Next time you do a good deed, savor that moment with God.
You will shine, your acts just glorified him. Let’s keep somethings simple, something’s discreet, something’s private. Let’s not get lost and loose a blessing by seeking acceptance from others. Let’s live as if social media doesn’t exist in some cases. The only one we need approval from is God.
Father God I thank you today for another opportunity to lift your band in praise. I thank you for this day. I want to shine glorifying you and only you. Please help me keep that fire burning, help me continue to shine forever more. In your name I pray. AMEN
Prestigious yet no prestige
I work for a prestigious organization which shall remain nameless. This organization is well known. This organization has great aspects to it. This organization I always aspired to some day join. There were expectations as an organization that have yet to be fulfilled. When I got hired there …. at first it was everything I had ever imagined it to be then….
The grass is not always greener on the other side.
Lies… lies…reneged promises. They dangle that carrot then they yank it away….. such a tease.
This organizations leadership needs guidance. They need prayers, they need education and understanding. Quick to find someone to blame in situations, quick not to investigate and research, quick to cross that ethical line of need be.
As an establishment I like the place. As an employee I’m starting to feel it’s time to go. My conscience, my moral beliefs and ethics are always on the line. My family are always up for discussion. I should not have to choose from being a good employee and being a good mom.
My right to privacy should be respected. Confidentiality had been breeched more than once. Loyalty is a myth. Bosses who defend their staff is a legend of days pasts.
I’ve been reflecting on whether to move on for quiet some time. To get back to my grassroots initiatives despite the drop in pay. To do something more meaningful to me. What I do at my “prestigious” organization is meaningful to the lives affected, the lives I help. However, I need something more rooted with a cause that aligns my heart where I can feel pure joy, despite the stress in what I do.
I once loved my job, I currently just tolerate it, passing time, waiting for when God says now is the time to go.
We as people buy into the hype of the name thinking due to its reputation it has to be worthwhile. Turns out it’s a big disappointment. My colleagues have similar feelings.
Why don’t you just leave?
In this economy that we are living in?
A single income household cannot suffice with the demands of time for a family of 4.
Benefits, healthcare is what one needs to think about when you have children. Protect ones family and have their best interest.
Finding employment when the competition pool just keeps increasing. It’s hard finding work. You can apply, apply, apply and apply but that doesn’t guarantee a call from a prospective employee. This modern world is so digitized.
We have to teach our children the importance of networking so that they can increase their prospects of future employment. We have to teach our kids to do their best to ensure their resume and cover letters are superb, so that they can increase their chances of a call back, to be knowledgeable, personable and straight to the point during interviews so the interviewee can remember them among the candidate pool. We have to talk about our experiences so they can learn from them.
Oh this prestigious organization. Look where you left me.
Left me hopeless in ever believing that you were better.
Left me anxious to leave, no jet at the end of my shift.
This is like a pending bad break up from a relationship you had hoped and aspirations.
I once loved you.
Now I long to be free from your bondage.
Your name is prestigious, but there’s no prestige in working for you.
I no longer want to be in a relationship with you, counting on the days to be free from your oppression.