Proverbs 31:10-31King James Version (KJV)
10 Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies.
11 The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil.
12 She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life.
13 She seeketh wool, and flax, and worketh willingly with her hands.
14 She is like the merchants’ ships; she bringeth her food from afar.
15 She riseth also while it is yet night, and giveth meat to her household, and a portion to her maidens.
16 She considereth a field, and buyeth it: with the fruit of her hands she planteth a vineyard.
17 She girdeth her loins with strength, and strengtheneth her arms.
18 She perceiveth that her merchandise is good: her candle goeth not out by night.
19 She layeth her hands to the spindle, and her hands hold the distaff.
20 She stretcheth out her hand to the poor; yea, she reacheth forth her hands to the needy.
21 She is not afraid of the snow for her household: for all her household are clothed with scarlet.
22 She maketh herself coverings of tapestry; her clothing is silk and purple.
23 Her husband is known in the gates, when he sitteth among the elders of the land.
24 She maketh fine linen, and selleth it; and delivereth girdles unto the merchant.
25 Strength and honour are her clothing; and she shall rejoice in time to come.
26 She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness.
27 She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness.
28 Her children arise up, and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praiseth her.
29 Many daughters have done virtuously, but thou excellest them all.
30 Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the Lord, she shall be praised.
31 Give her of the fruit of her hands; and let her own works praise her in the gates.
The Beloved Proverbial Women.
Proverbs 31 describes what many consider the perfect dutiful women.
Sometimes we as women try to aspire to be this symbol of perfection and do as much as we can to fit the description.
Sometimes we as modern women try to aspire to be everything this proverbial woman is not.
What many fail to realize is being a proverbial woman does not mean being this perfect being.
It is about living life with purpose, diligence, forgiveness, and repentance.
There are attributes of this proverbial woman that we modern woman can apply to our lives to become this virtuous woman.
Many Modern women are like wait no way, I will never submit myself to become a submissive wife, I know this because I have said that myself.
Though I have been raised to be an independent woman, I know that I can submit my will to God and be blessed abundantly, for he will provide.
Here are a few examples as to how this Virtuous Woman’s characteristics can be aligned to the modern woman, where we too can be like this as possible.
A Virtuous Woman is faithful, she serves God with all her might, with all her heart, with all her mind, and her soul.
She has faith in her creator.
She seeks the will of God for her life and follows His ways.
example: Proverbs 31: 26, Proverbs 31: 29 – 31,
Matthew 22: 37 – Jesus replied: “‘Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.’
John 14: 15 If you love me, keep my commands.
Psalm 119: 15 I meditate on your precepts and consider your ways.
A Virtuous Woman will respect her spouse, her marriage and her Union.
She will care for her husband.
She will be trust worthy and helpful in their union.
example: Proverbs 31: 11- 12, Proverbs 31: 23, Proverbs 31: 28,
1 Peter 3, Wives, in the same way submit yourselves to your own husbands so that, if any of them do not believe the word, they may be won over without words by the behavior of their wives,
Ephesians 5, Follow God’s example, therefore, as dearly loved children 2 and walk in the way of love, just as Christ loved us and gave himself up for us as a fragrant offering and sacrifice to God.
Genesis2: 18 The Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.”
A Virtuous Woman nurtures and teaches her children.
a virtuous woman will teach all children, and love them, even if they are not her own.
She nurtures, with Christs love, wisdom, care and discipline.
she trains the children in the way.
example: Proverbs 31: 28, Proverbs 31: 26,
Proverbs 22: 6, Start children off on the way they should go, and even when they are old they will not turn from it.
Deuteronomy 6:2,so that you, your children and their children after them may fear the Lord your God as long as you live by keeping all his decrees and commands that I give you, and so that you may enjoy long life.
Luke 18: 16 But Jesus called the children to him and said, “Let the little children come to me, and do not hinder them, for the kingdom of God belongs to such as these.
A Virtuous Woman will care for her health.
She will care for the health of her husband.
She will care for the health of her children and family.
she will provide meals to promote healthy living and nourishment.
example: Proverbs 31: 14 – 15, Proverbs 31: 17,
1 Corinthians 6:19, Do you not know that your bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own;
Genesis 1: 29, Then God said, “I give you every seed-bearing plant on the face of the
whole earth and every tree that has fruit with seed in it. They will be
yours for food.
Daniel 1, – Daniel’s Training in Babylon
Leviticus 11 -Clean and Unclean Food
A Virtuous Woman serves.
She serves and loves her husband.
she serves and loves her family.
she serves and loves her community.
she serves with a warm loving spirit.
She has no problem doing charity work.
example: Proverbs 31: 12, Proverbs 31: 15, Proverbs 31: 20,
1 Corinthians 13: 13 And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.
A Virtuous Woman knows how to budget herself and for the home ensuring the finances are in order.
She purchase the food, clothing for her family.
She makes sure bills are promptly paid.
example:Proverbs 31: 14, Proverbs 31: 16, Proverbs 31: 18,
1 Timothy 6: 10, For the love of money is a root of all kinds of evil. Some people, eager for money, have wandered from the faith and pierced themselves with many griefs.
Ephesians 5: 23, For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior.
Deuteronomy 14: 22, Be sure to set aside a tenth of all that your fields produce each year.
Numbers 18: 26 Speak to the Levites and say to them: ‘When you receive from the Israelites the tithe I give you as your inheritance, you must present a tenth of that tithe as the Lord’s offering
A Virtuous Woman is handy.
She works, can provide, can fix, repair.
She sings praises to God and does not complain.
example: Proverbs 31: 13, Proverbs 31: 16, Proverbs 31: 24, Proverbs 31:31,
Philippians 2: 14 Do everything without grumbling or arguing,
A Virtuous Woman is a homemaker.
She creates love and warmth in her home for her family.
She brings peace and love when she hosts company, ministering to those with her
example: Proverbs 31: 15, Proverbs 31: 20 – 22, Proverbs 31: 27,
Titus 2: 5, to be self-controlled and pure, to be busy at home, to be kind, and to
be subject to their husbands, so that no one will malign the word of
1 Peter 4: 9, 9 Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling.
Hebrews 13: 2 Do not forget to show hospitality to strangers, for by so doing some people have shown hospitality to angels without knowing it.
A Virtuous Woman knows how to use her time wisely.
Works hard and diligently to complete daily tasks (whether as a working woman or as a stay at home wife/mom.
She does not spend time doing things and sulking on those things that do not please the Lord.
Proverbs 31: 13, Proverbs 31: 19, Proverbs 31: 27,
Ecclesiastes 3, A Time for Everything
Proverbs 16: 9, A man’s heart plans his way, But the Lord directs his steps.
Philippians 4:8 Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things.
A Virtuous Woman is beautiful (not speaking of the carnal term).
She has beauty that comes from Christ, her inner beauty outshines the natural.
She is creative and uses this beauty in her life and the lives of her loved ones.
example: Proverbs 31: 10 Proverbs 31: 21 – 22, Proverbs 31: 24 -25,
Isaiah 61: 10, I delight greatly in the Lord; my soul rejoices in my God.For he has clothed me with garments of salvation and arrayed me in a robe of his righteousness, as a bridegroom adorns his head like a priest, and as a bride adorns herself with her jewels.
1 Timothy 2: 9, I also want the women to dress modestly, with decency and propriety,
adorning themselves, not with elaborate hairstyles or gold or pearls or
1 Peter 3: 1 – 6 Wives, in the same way submit yourselves to your own husbands so that, if any of them do not believe the word, they may be won over without words by the behavior of their wives, 2 when they see the purity and reverence of your lives. 3 Your
beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as elaborate
hairstyles and the wearing of gold jewelry or fine clothes. 4 Rather, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight. 5 For this is the way the holy women of the past who put their hope in God used to adorn themselves. They submitted themselves to their own husbands, 6 like Sarah, who obeyed Abraham and called him her lord. You are her daughters if you do what is right and do not give way to fear.
We do not have to meet every single description, but we can see where we can apply some of her characteristic in to our own lives.
We can be that Proverbial Woman.
We do not have to fear the perfection which she is described as.
We do not have to fully aspire to be her, nor aspire not to be her.
We can learn from her, and apply whatever attribute one see’s fit for ones life.
Father God I thank you today for my loving family. For helping me manage my responsibilities as a wife and mother as well as daughter. Father I know I am not perfect, my imperfections are evident. I once detested to be compared to this Proverbial woman, I never wanted to submit to any man. What I failed to realize is how strong and Independent she really was. Despite my own imperfections, despite my own modern beliefs, I see some of her in me. I ask you lord to help me be my own virtuous woman as you deem fit. May all that I do be for your Glory. May all that I do for my family, be for your glory. May all that I do for my community be all for your Glory. I will submit myself to you and my roles as wife, to become my families own Proverbial Virtuous woman in your Glory.