Still Get UP

Proverbs 24:16 The righteous may fall seven times but still get up, but the wicked will stumble into trouble
A few weeks ago I saw two posts from TD James and I was just moved. Both posts correlate with one another. Both posts have a cause and effect factor. Both post reflects agents of change within oneself.
One of the posts were about failure. The other was about change agents.
We have all been in a place where we have felt like complete failures. No matter what we do, no matter what we say, no matter what we just keep failing.
Right now I feel like I’m soaring everywhere but in my own home. I feel like I am free falling to my inevitable kaput.
Have you ever seen looney tunes?
I’m wild E coyote chasing after the road runner. I follow the road runner, thinking that I am going to get my prize, then low and behold I was so blind sighted by the prize that I didn’t pay attention to my surroundings. I didn’t realize I had stepped over the cliff, the road, the gravel, the sand, the desert are no longer beneath my feet.
I can see the road runner up ahead. I can hear it say “beep, beep” as he sets off into the sunset. Now I realize my desperation and my despair. I look below I see nothing, I look around and see nothing. I’m stories high and now I am free falling.
We’ve all been there.
I am currently there today.
I am spiraling down free falling at home.
Where did I go wrong?
We tend to have a bad habit in the midst of these trials to not seek God for guidance. Luckily for me I know better, based on my experiences, to know to seek and praise him in the good times as well as the bad times. Today I seek refuge in God to give me guidance, words or whatever he has for me to fix this situation.
Back to TD Jakes posts.
3 ways to fail at everything in life:
1- complain about everything
2- blame others for your problems.
3- never be grateful
Based on his points here is how I failed:
I complained about my situation at home:
I blamed everyone for my problem.
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My six year old has become very sassy. He has become very lazy, he suddenly has become a smart mouth. He has become very disrespectful as of late. Instead of getting to the root of the problem I have reprimanded him. As a mother I feel his failures are my failures. I complained about our circumstance and fully blamed him. Whereas my lack of providing the guidance needed is also the problem. I too am to blame.
We all go through situations where our children do something and we react. Sometimes the built up stress of our every day lives are channeled at the wrong time. I need to assess myself as well as my child so we can stop blaming others. Accept responsibilities for our faults and move onward. Parenting and our walk in Christ are always evolving and something we learn from with each day, each event, each second.
The second post from TD Jakes said the following:
5 characteristics of change agents
1- clear vision
2- patient yet persistent
3-ask tough questions
4-knowledgeable & leads by example
5- strong relationships built on trust.
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This is where I am trying to get to with my problem at home.
I need to see the bigger picture. See clearer. I cannot do this if I am raging. I need to be patient but get to the root of the problem, the interior problem within me and the interior problem with my child. Patience will be needed since that may take a little bit longer. I do need to ask the tough questions. To myself and my child. I will need to lead by my example and show him I too am learning, i too make mistakes but this is how we fix, learn and grow from these mistakes. I need to ensure that my relationship stays strong. Right now is the time to fix it before it gets out of hand.
Right now I need to focus on the bigger picture.
Right now the bigger picture is not loosing my son, getting him to respect and to have reverence.
Right now the bigger picture is also to work within myself and battle this battle I am dealing with so that I may not lose who I am.
Father God I thank you for all that you have given me. I thank you for your guidance. I thank God for allowing me to utilize writing as a self reflection as well as to reassess my actions. God this tool could also be used for others who may have similar yet different experiences. Though I felt this Morning that the road was pulled from under my feet, I know it was your guidance that made me realize what steps I need to take to fix this. Lord I pray for the reader reading this who has a similar situation. I ask you to give them the knowledge and wisdom to assess, reflect, distress and approach their circumstances in a christian like way. Father I ask for forgiveness for my actions, I also ask for forgiveness for my child. Father please guide us both when I approach him on this manner. Father guide the reader reading this, as they approach the battles they are facing. May we be reverent in your cause. May you provide words and comfort. Amen.
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#YOLO

Do not lay up for yourselves treasures on earth, where moth and
rust destroy and where thieves break in and steal.
But lay up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where neither moth
nor rust destroys and where thieves do not break in and steal.
For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also.
Matthew 6:19 – 21 ESV
Many of us are constantly working long hours, trying to save money, trying to buy that big house, fancy car, updated I phone etc.
For what though?
#YOLO.
You Only Live Once.
All of the materialistic items….they are going to rot away.
They are going to be useless.
We can’t take them with us.
We love our trinkets, our chachkis’ our money…but that’s not going with us.
We will have greater joys, greater things to look forward to when we join our rightful place.
When we arrive the new Jerusalem, everything will be pristine, shiny, new. We will not need anything we are striving to get here. The streets will be as pure as gold, the waters as clear as diamonds. Gems and rainbows, what a sight it will be. At least that what John wrote when god allowed him a preview of what the new Jerusalem will look like.
We will not need the i Phones or the galaxies, we will not need the laptops and tablets, the game consoles or tvs, we will not need the benz nor the jaguar of our dreams. We will only need salvation. We will only need to believe in Christ and live a just life. We will not win a golden ticket. We will not be able to buy our way or bribe our way in.
Yes it is good to live a good and comfortable life while we are here in earth, but when we are gone, none of that will matter.
Work hard on your relationship with Christ and growing spiritually vs gaining materialistic things. Work hard on studying the scriptures vs studying music lyrics and sports. Know your creator, love your creator, live for your creator.
All the riches, all the material items, none of them are joining you in he afterlife. Do not waste away your life on materialistic satisfaction when the true reward is in the after life. I am not saying have fun, what I am saying is do not let these materialistic things preoccupy your life. They should not be what you are solely working hard for.
Yes we are to live out our lives, in the best way we can, while also strengthening our relationship with Christ so that when our time comes, we can join him. I will gladly claim my treasure in heaven.
Father I thank you for another day, for another opportunity to praise you, for another opportunities to spread your word. Father I thank you for my blessings you have alloyed me here on earth, I know these are temporary for where I’m going I can’t take them with me. Father as I live out the years you have allotted for me I want to live it out growing with you. I want to live it out doing your deeds. I will live it out knowing that nothing here on earth will compare to what’s awaiting us when we join you. For that, for your sacrifice, for your love and mercy I thank you. Amen.